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Three women talk about when they think it's the best time to tell people that you are pregnant. Also they discuss who they would tell first about their pregnancy.

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Dr. Georgia Witkin: Hi! I am Dr. Georgia Witkin. Kimberly Pauley: And I am Kimberly Pauley. Dr. Georgia Witkin: And I am Kimberly's mother. Kimberly Pauley: And I am the mother of two boys. Dr. Georgia Witkin: -- which makes me GG for Grandma Georgia. Kimberly Pauley: So welcome to GG and me. Dr. Georgia Witkin: We talk about everything. Kimberly Pauley: Well, the reason I talk to my mother about everything is that she is a professor of psychiatry, professor of OB/GYN, has written 10 books on stress and she is a Fox News contributor. Dr. Georgia Witkin: And Kimberley is a lawyer, a columnist, a college professor and pregnant. Kimberly Pauley: So, we are going to be talking about pregnancy. Please join us. Dr. Georgia Witkin: So many people ask me when to tell, when not to tell that you are pregnant. So I am going to ask you because you are all bear and you have all done it before, but first say hello. Kimberly Pauley: My name is Kimberly Pauley and I have two sons, and I am pregnant with my third son. Jenny Vynerib: My name is Jenny Vynerib and I have one son Alver and two older daughters. Susan Krauss: I am Susan Krauss. I have a 3 1/2 year old son and this is Lucas who is 2 weeks old. Dr. Georgia Witkin: Hello you all and hello Lucas and hello babies. Okay, so here is the question. Tell early or tell late? If you tell early, you get lots of advice and if get lots of support. Of course, you can get too much advice and if something goes wrong, you can get too much support. What is your advice? Jenny Vynerib: I was an advocate of waiting, as long as I could into the first trimester my goal was to not say anything for the first trimester, but unfortunately, I showed way too quickly. Dr. Georgia Witkin: So you could do that. Jenny Vynerib: I waited until people -- any ones and when I finally did tell people everything. Susan Krauss: I kind of like this. Jenny Vynerib: Oh yeah. Kimberly Pauley: I waited till the end of my first trimester also just because I felt like that was one the risk of miscarriages last, but I think a good rule of thumb that someone told me that I try to go by is I told people that I would feel comfortable with telling you if something might wrong. So I told you, my mother, I told my best friend, I told a handful of people that if God forbid something happened, I would obviously go to them right away whether they knew or not and tell them something happened and I want their support. Dr. Georgia Witkin: So the main fact that you are saying when it comes to telling is making sure you are over some mark where you feel that won't be a miscarriage, is that fair to say or is it more about the news is exciting and I want to keep it private or I want to tell everybody in the world from minute one? Susan Krauss: I sort of agree with what Kimberly saying that I felt like, I would, I told the people that I would tell if there was some sort of a problem or issue that I would need support from, I told them early and then sort of the general public, did tell too later, I mean with my first pregnancy, I remember that we went to Italy when I was about a month pregnant. Kimberly Pauley: So did I. Susan Krauss: Really? And we had a wedding for a friend of ours and I wasn't drinking any wine in Italy, so everyone knew. Kimberly Pauley: Oh, I told all of Italy because I would never see those people again. Susan Krauss: I know these people, I knew these people, these were all my friends at a wedding. And people ask you too when you are in that sort of those child bearing years, I think your friends know you well and know if you were trying, people ask you know it's hard. I found it hard to lie about being pregnant. Kimberly Pauley: But I love to lie. Susan Krauss: I just did not feel comfortable so a lot of times I ended up telling people that I hadn't planned on it. That happened. Dr. Georgia Witkin: But it sounds like that when you are pregnant, you really want to tell, you have to hold yourself back. Jenny Vynerib: Oh, it is. It's always in the back of your mind, no matter who you are talking to, what's going on so, it's almost like the elephant in a room. You know, but you don't know. They are wondering and you try not to talk about even though it's one of the biggest things going on in your world at that moment. Kimberly Pauley: Not everybody wants to know right away. If people sometimes tell me and it's very, very early and I don't know them very well, I am sort of uncomfortable because it's too much responsibility and I don't want that kind of information. Jenny Vynerib: Yeah. Kimberly Pauley: If something happened, they have to go back to you. I would rather people wait to tell me. Dr. Georgia Witkin: So that's your nice queries. Kimberly Pauley: If I am not close with that, I would rather-- Susan Krauss: Don't tell me too early. Kimberly Pauley: Yes. Jenny Vynerib: Just do what's best for you and what you are comfortable with, but waiting and telling the people that are close to you, that was my-- Dr. Georgia Witkin: And you are saying people guess anyway? Susan Krauss: Yeah, I found that-- you didn't have to tell people a lot, they just sort of ask and then I did tell them. I probably told people pretty quickly. Dr. Georgia Witkin: If they guess, you don't want to lie. So you confirm it. Kimberly Pauley: So you can say I'll wait, then I will tell you. Susan Krauss: You smile. Kimberly Pauley: Ya, you smile. Dr. Georgia Witkin: you smile energetically. Susan Krauss: Exactly. Dr. Georgia Witkin: It's my bottom line. We can always tell, you can't untell, let them doubt, right? Susan Krauss: Right, thanks.