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Our resident moms discuss the instances of bickering and increased verbal violence that occurs during pregnancy and show unwavering support for a pregnant woman’s moods swings due to the pregnancy.

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Kendall: Okay, We're back! Now we're going to talk about pregnancy things, things that are going during pregnancy and the fights between boyfriends and pregnant women. So here we go. We have a girl here! Nina: It's excluding her husband or including? Kendall: Well she is talking about her boyfriend. She is 13 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend and I are getting into fights. And they've been boyfriend and girlfriend for 5 years and now that she is pregnant, she is constantly getting into fights with him. Nina: He is nervous! Kendall: We both want the baby and are very excited. I know I can be a real moody but lately it's been getting worse and I can't seem to control it. I just say stupid mean things and offend him and this leads to fight. Nina: No! You might be moody! Kendall: She says she loves him. Nina: No, she says it's all her fault; it's not all your fault! Kendall: She wants -- but look at this. Nina: It's his fault too. Kendall: I think she wants to know what she could do to make him know that she loves him. It should be the reverse; he should be trying to calm her down because obviously she is very anxious. Nina: You're too nice! Kendall: When you're anxious, you're picking up fights with people because you're so nervous about everything. Nina: No! He is obvious... Kendall: It's still early in the pregnancy and of course you know, when you're pregnant you got all kinds of hormones raging, all kinds, especially at 13 weeks. Nina: If men can have menopause they can be moody. And trust me men are moody. Kendall: Men are moody! Are you telling from experience? Nina: No! I don't know anything about that. I found out from somebody who worked in a fertility clinic or something that the -- what did they tell me? Oh Yes! The rate of violence between men and women -- yeah! Not necessarily... Kendall: ...Physical but verbal! Nina: Goes up during pregnancy! Kendall: I can see that because you're... Nina: Both people are panicking! Kendall: You're body is changing; you're not feeling right, weird things are happening to your body. You're boobs are hurting, you're uterus is hurting. Nina: She wants her boyfriend to know she loves him, here is what I suggest. Kendall: Yeah! The baby! He is nervous also and he is anxious too. He is not physically going through all the changes. He is nervous and anxious! Look they're boyfriend and girlfriend, they're not married, they got to support this new life. So maybe he is anxious about financial things. Nina: But why is she trying to show she loves him? Kendall: It should be both and I agree with you. It should be both ways, a two way street. If she is picking fights on him, he should be more understanding and see what the real reason of the fight is and try to talk. What's the real reason, yeah! Take her out to dinner, move in to her ike you did before, take her out to movie, relax. But it's normal! I know that when I was pregnant I was pregnant, I was also very anxious and I was mean and a little catty now and then so. Nina: But she is not like that girl now. Alright, so we have another one here. Sophen Bob, new dad's blog, her husband has a -- oh her partner, her partner found aspects of her pregnancy and labor after birth experience very difficult. So he decided to get his own blog and write down his thoughts. Kendall: He thought it was weird and hard. Excuse me! Let's all have a moment to be sympathetic for what he did not go through and he has his own blog. Nina: She thinks its okay because she can get to be very truly, respecting of feelings. Kendall: Oh let's worry about his thoughts and feelings. Nina: She thinks it'll be lovely for their new son to be reading. Now she wants a blog. Kendall: Well she should get one, she should get one and she should write down her experience because really she is going through it. Nina: But why does she need a blog! Whatever happened to paper and pencil? Kendall: Well this is the new wave of technology that's hitting Americans. Nina: So they have to tell their feelings to the world? Kendall: Why not? I think its fine! I think if she wants to talk about it, go for it! But I think of it very strange that he has so many welled up and pent up emotions and feelings, I mean it's really her that's gone through it all. Nina: But why do they need a blog? Kendall: Why not? Go ahead! Do a blog! Nina: Okay, get a blog! Kendall: Get a blog and write and it down. What the heck! Nina: Of course this is a women who had a video camera and all in the deliveries for her husband. I don't know! Kendall: I brought the husband and the video, he video taped me! What a beautiful thing! You need to tape your birth, it's amazing. It's amazing! Nina: I am more low key! Kendall: We like to look at it every now and then. Each child their face, it's unbelievable! Nina: Yes! Their face with all the mucusy stuff, so cute. Kendall: It's beautiful! It's beautiful! It's beautiful! It's beautiful! Nina: Alright, so what else? Kendall: One day we'll have a coffee and I'll show you my little video. Nina: No I don't want to eat while I watch this. Kendall: C'mon it'll be fine. Nina: I don't think eating and watching a birth video is good combo. Kendall: Don't worry about it. Ok, here we go. We have another one. We'll do it when we come back in a moment be right back!