Tantrums, meltdowns, and hissy fits can be a nightmare for parents. In this episode of The Lab, Daddy Clay and Daddy Brad tackle this important child behavior topic. Since we're all about fairness here at DadLabs, we'll first show kids some techniques for throwing a temper tantrum and getting the most of their meltdown, including the best locations for their hissy fit. We also speak with early parenting coach, Carrie Contey, PhD. to learn why temper tantrums happen how child development.
Daddy Clay: Hey! There welcome back to the lab. I am Daddy Clay. Daddy Brad: And I am Daddy Brad, tune in back and we'll show you to the proper way to throw a hissy fit. Daddy Clay: Today’s episode on tantrums, meltdowns and hissy fit is brought to you by Baby Bjorn, while they are small enough to fit one of these Baby Bjorns, enjoy. Daddy Brad: Before we offer parent tips about, how to handle a meltdown. Just to show, we are not biased. We are going to teach your kids how to throw one. Daddy Clay: Sometimes getting a good ROI on your hissy fits is all about market timing. You may want to consider delaying the onset of your meltdown, until dad is on his iPhone, using his office voice. Daddy Brad, I have got something important to tell you. Daddy Brad: Location, location, location. Only a rookie throws a fit on the the kitchen floor. And remember, that parents are secondary target, what you are trying to do is draw a crowd, that's why a public area is at high traffic places, like airplanes and grocery store isles are best. Daddy Clay: Consider throwing a snot slinger, long green snot task are ideal for top-notch tantrum. Also consider a full month, a half chewed oreo cookie, could really be a winner, get gross to get what you want. Daddy Brad: Finally paste yourself. Don't over tantrum. If you throw more than one good floor flinger a day, your parents might develop a residence to your fits, but don't let him rest too long, because if they can bring you into a restaurant and they are not terrified that you are going to cause a huge seen, well, you are just not flipping out enough. Daddy Clay: On a slightly more serious note, we asked early parenting coach, Dr. Carrie Contey to give us some advise on managing and limiting temper tantrums. Dr. Carrie Contey: If the way development works is that, the child is going along, and they are using all their skills and then something in them says, oh! Wow, we have mastered that, we have got to learn something new, in that, I am ready to make a leap, there's going to be some regression and there's going to be a lot of emotion, because the ability to build those neural structures, causes a huge amount of frustration, you can do some things right before, the tantrum starts, at least, you can try. So connection is really the key. So you want to see, if you can make eye contact. If you can make eye contact with a child, you don't want to force it, because it just means they are really stressed and so, you could say, hey! Let me look at your eyes or what color are my eyes? And if they look that's going to help them get back to that human place, and it's going to slow them down. The other thing is you can play. So if they are saying, no I don't want, to get my clothes on and your reaction might be oh! No, you are going to get your clothes on, you might actually try your hardest to click into a play response and say, -- you don't want to get your clothes on, ahh! What are we going to do? And you can start spinning around the room and making yourself fall on the floor and just try to play with them. You can't always let it happen because time requirements or there are not any appropriate place. But if your kid, over the couple of days is just always falling off the cliff and going toward a tantrum. You better off, letting them have it, and really going over then, trying to do fancy footwork and trying to redirect and trying to make sure they don't, because eventually the pot is going to boil so much that you are better off, just pulling the lid off, and letting the steam dissipate then trying to hold the lid on it over and over and over again. Daddy Brad: Well, Carrie has got some good points. But you know, when your kid is fluffing around on the floor with the Chick-Fil-A like a freaking catfish, it's hard to keep your cool. Daddy Clay: Yeah, I know. But you have to because,-- getting ticked off at a kid for throwing a hissy fit, is little bit like spanking them for hitting. Daddy Brad: Yeah, but I think it effects, the first time parents more, because I have got like three kids and I don't know, I don't hear it anymore. Daddy Clay: Yeah, first time parents are definitely afflicted more than anybody. And I want to say, this to you first time parent, if I am there, and your kid is throwing a hissy fit, I am not judging you, I am just trying not to laugh, because I find other parents, kids, hissy fits a layer it is. Daddy Brad: Yeah, when your kid is just throwing that hissy fit in public, it's a good test about how much you care, about what other people think of you. Daddy Clay: It's one of those moments where, you have to just tell the world to go to hell and even some oldster comes over and gives you the, you need to teach your kids how to behave in the restaurant comment, is what they'll do, the oldster. You just got to -- take a breathe, focus on your kid and yourself and don't worry about them. Daddy Brad: Well, thanks Baby Bjorn our sponsor. You know what, if your in-laws gave you some crappy travel crips from the company other than Baby Bjorn, maybe you should do a hissy fit. Daddy Clay: That's a good idea. You know what join our conversation about mitigating hissy fits at dadlabs.com, we want to see you there for sure, and that's all we have got time for, this week here, on dadlabs.