Learn how to understand and deal with bossy kids. The Go-To Mom gives tips on how to manage and keep the peace between children.
Bossy Kids. Kimberley Clayton Blaine: No parents wants a bossy kid, but we all know at some point, our young child will enter into the bossy phase. Sometimes children learn controlling behaviors from their older siblings, so in turn they boss their friends around. Children tend to be bossy because they have the need to feel heard or to feel powerful. Be sure you provide opportunities for your young child to feel powerful, so that they don't end up bossy. Here are some tips on how to stop the bossiness. Encourage children to use their words to express feelings, thoughts and needs. Help them learn how to say things like, "I don't like what you did", "stop", "I don't want to do that", or "let's take turns", "speak kindly". Remind them that unkind word hurt people's feeling. Ask an adult for help, stay on top of this behavior at home. No one likes to be around or play with bossy kids. Provide guidance, be willing to step in and coach children on how to express their feelings and desires. Help them stand up for themselves and always let them know that you are here to help. Parents should, know your child and their playmates. Consider children's different temperaments and make efforts to prevent situations that you know might flare up with bossy behaviors Empathize, always empathize and nurture children in conflict. Sometimes children come on too strong because they don't feel heard or valued. If your child is being bossy, hear him out and then privately bring to his attention, that his strong demands maybe the reason why his friends don't want to play with him. Brainstorm solutions to regain harmony. So at the end of the day make sure that you let your child know that you like the way he spoke with his friend.