YourTango Relationship Advice: What are some signs that he is cheating on you?
Tiffany Smith: Welcome to Love U. Worried your Sweetie is pulling his specs or we will tell you how to know if your guy is doing a little double dealing in the love department with how to catch a cheater? He is unaccountable for long stretches of time. He started buying new clothes and the last time he phoned he called you Sheila, your name is Jane. In a survey of 70,000 people conducted by MSNBC in iVillage, 28% of married men and 18% of married women admitted to cheating. So, what signs should you look for to know if your guy is cheating? Suddenly the partner that you were inseparable from is spending long hours away from you. He has got dinner meetings but he arrives home with an appetite. He is working over time but his pay check stays in the same. He is spending long hours at the gym, but you suspect he is only working out one muscle. Female Speaker: We are out of milk? Male Speaker: No, I will get some. Female Speaker: Where have you been? Male Speaker: Wanted the milk. Female Speaker: That was 12 hours ago. Male Speaker: Corner store is out, had to go all the way down town, some of the guys one thing led to another. Here is milk. Tiffany Smith: Check out his appearance. Does your Sweetie suddenly have a new found interest in his grooming habits, a clean man can be up to some very dirty things. Female Speaker: Honey, what are you doing in there? Male Speaker: Hello. Female Speaker: Are you shaving your chest? Male Speaker: Yeah, it was getting a lot manageable. I have seen my packs are bigger. Female Speaker: No. Male Speaker: Hey, can you hand me body wash for men. Tiffany Smith: Some other signs you may be dealing with a lying guy or missing money. He won't let you answer his cellphone. His taste in music has changed. His mileage is unusually high. If you confirm him and find out that he is having an affair the most important thing to remember is it is not your fault. Only he is accountable for his action. So, don't blame yourself. If you decide to forgive him, make sure you mean it. So, you can both move forward with the relationship. Female Speaker: Where are you going? Male Speaker: I was going to take out the trash, it's full. Female Speaker: Well, you have been taking out the trash a lot lately so. Male Speaker: Baby, I am literally going to clear the garbage to curb. Female Speaker: Fine, I will get the keys. Okay. Male Speaker: I don't know. I am usually blindfolded when we do this, its been. Female Speaker: You should think about that before you get milk. They got may be. Male Speaker: -- Female Speaker: I am sorry, okay, might be well. Tiffany Smith: Cheating is a betrayal of trust but it doesn't have to be the end of a relationship that you will spend years of cultivating. Just be sure you know all the facts, discussed your feelings and then move on to another episode of love you. See you next time.