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Mina-Jacqueline Au is here to tell us the Do's and Don'ts of handling a baby that isn't yours.

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Baby Etiquette Audra Lowe: Having a baby is undeniably one of the greatest joys of life but sometimes the people around you want to share a little too much in that experience and that can also put everybody in an awkward situation. Lifestyle expert and mother as you can see Mina-Jacqueline Au is here and she's going to tell us the dos and the dont's, some of the dos and the dont’s of handling a baby that isn't yours because we know there's plenty of them right? Mina-Jacqueline Au: Yes. Audra Lowe: Good to have you and Tyler here, hello Tyler. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Thank you, thank you. Audra Lowe: Good to have you in the show, he's five months old now. Mina-Jacqueline Au: He's five months, yes. Audra Lowe: Okay, so in the past just a couple of five months you and I both learn quite a bit about the things that kind of annoy you and the things we're not the only ones. Mina-Jacqueline Au: We're not the only ones because he has play dates and I talk to other parents it's a common concern. Audra Lowe: Yeah, one of the biggest urges that a lot of new moms have is when people come and they want to pick up the baby they don't ask the mother they just -- I knew a woman yank our daughter out of our arms right. I didn't even know she we're just took her right out of my hands. That's a big no, no right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: No, absolutely, I mean it's -- it's a common concern and it's not voice. So I think it needs to be addressed. Audra Lowe: Okay. Mina-Jacqueline Au: A lot of them are come -- may come from good intentions, a lot of them are your friends you know you're at a party you're at someone's home they're at your home and they see your son crying even and that's you know maybe he's laying in the stroller or he's lying in his crib, out of good intentions they'll go pick him up for you. What they don’t know is maybe you left him there for reasons like for me I very -- from literally day I let him cry if he needs to cry. For whatever reason unless he's hungry. Because he needs to just understand that and a lot of people just don't get it. Audra Lowe: They don't and they don't understand that you have to undo whatever they just did once they put the baby back down. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Exactly. Audra Lowe: A big issue for me to is people going straight to the hands, the babies' hands and touching the hands without washing their hands. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Yes. Audra Lowe: And then giving you the excuse that you got to build up their immune system I don't want to build their immune system with something you've got and I can't trace it. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Well all you have to do is and this is what I do, I have lots of hand sanitizer in my diaper bag. I stick it in their face and I say "that's okay they have a good immune system, well here you go". Audra Lowe: Without you and thank you very much. Also the names of the baby, you have given your child a name but for some reason other people feel like they have the ability to make up names or to change the name that you've given. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Right, right. Audra Lowe: Right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: They a lot of times the names are like you know Kimberly or Tyler and you know they're shortened forms like Kim, Ty, for example I absolutely hated it when people call him Ty. Audra Lowe: Yeah. Mina-Jacqueline Au: I named him Tyler for a reason. Audra Lowe: Right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: And no Ty. Audra Lowe: Right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: So you know sometimes you just don't know and a lot of people again come from good intention, they want to be closer you know they feel like they're closer to your child by giving them a more endearing name. Audra Lowe: But we have to teach the kids to not answer to certain people right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Exactly. Audra Lowe: And decisions of the parent's make for the child are purely that of the parents. And there's a reason why the parents make those decisions and we don’t asked anyone else to make those decisions right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Right, right. And that you know its actually something I’ve done in the past too before I had a baby you know what to do advice and just answering things but now I learn you know everyone does things extremely different and you know. Audra Lowe: Its' their thing and we're going to get. And we're just going to do this on the spot let's bring the paper towel in. Tyler is having a little moment and we don't want him on camera. He was having a good time over. Okay Mina last thing is the not times or nap times. You've got people coming over to visit he’s lying down and they want to pick him up and wake him up. And you know they have to stand a schedule right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: It’s very, very bad for baby’s schedules are so important because it really disrupt. Just even if you just wake him up for one second you have no idea it will disrupt their whole entire day. Audra Lowe: Right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: They're whole entire night. So what I tell my friends if you're going to stay with me for the next two days fine wake him up and you take care of Tyler. Audra Lowe: Exactly you could stay up at night. Thank you so much Mina we learned on and on. Thank you very much Tyler too we’ll be back after this. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Thank you, you did a good job.