In Chapter 4 of 18 in his 2012 Capture Your Flag interview, legal career advisor James McCormick notes that no matter how much preparation or planning you do, the actual experience will surprise you. Additionally, he discusses how everyone has an opinion about everything and offers suggestions how to manage this as a family. Lastly, he talks about putting a priority on the little moments, the early moments, after the baby is born and why you should do so.
Erik: What are 3 things you wish you knew before becoming a dad? James: First, I think I would say that no matter how much you prepare for or plan for or ready yourself for the experience of having a baby that, you know, it may not and likely will not follow script. And so I think – Be ready to roll with the punches. Two, if you’re not already aware of this, you certainly will be in short order that everybody has an opinion about everything. And it’s polite to listen, it’s polite to nod, and sort of take in the info, but at the end of the day I think the most important thing is to do what’s most comfortable for you. And then, the last thing and other people told me this, and to the extent you can really do it, is that those very short moments after your baby is born, when it’s you and your wife or the mother of your child, in a very intimate environment, soak it up, because it’s unlike anything you’ve ever experienced or will ever experience again. And it’s not something to be, I guess, glossed over.